Beware of the fox around you!!

The world is dominated by teasers & cheeky people.They get to you to confuse you by using methods of meaness & by kindness.
Being mean to you in moment & suddenly changing roles & becoming nice they actually intensify your guilt feelings ,for being rude to them when they were mean to you.In that way you are made to beleive that you are wrong all along.And if you are an emotional person they wouldnt hesitate to even reveal their darkest of secrets to draw your symphathy..
But this is when you need a hard kick on your butt to realise that your in a corporate world surrounded by foxes.It is true that such people climb up the corporate ladder faster than the other sincere ones but the credit goes to their MBA..i mean the Master of Butter Application..
As the saying goes birds of the same feather flock together..I would alter it to say Donkeys with the same stupidity work togehter..If one does a mistake the other does a bigger one to coverup for the first one..

Some worthy guidelines to help one counteract with such foxes
1)If you are right,make sure you have the last laugh / word.
2)Save all email & chat conversations..even the most trivial of conversation may turn out to be your saving grace.
3)Do not hesitate to escalate if things get worse.
4)Avoid using "please" , "thankyou" , "hi" ,"regards" for such a foxes who are just not worth it.
5)Read your replies several times & make sure the evidence to prove yourself is 100% correct to snub the fox royally.
6)Do not commit or provide any specific deadlines..if you have to then let them be subjective or make sure that their are acheievable well within your means.
7)Do not overdo things.
8)Remember that at the end of the day she/he is just an animal in the wilderness & you have no guilt feelings for she/he deserves it.
9)Do not entertain phone calls or chats in personal messengers for they might try to use your kindness.
10)Always remember that she/he has exploited your goodness & they deserve nothing more than a royal cornering.
11)Never trust them ever again in the future for such people make very good double-edged swords & remember they are the wolf in sheep's clothing.

A human who does not have the attitude to gratitude is worse than a parasite!!!

At work

Looks like Im offlate obessesed with blogging in respect to conversations..however here is one which I recollect at work...

X: Can you check this & mail it to me before 4pm
Y : Give me sometime

After a little while

x : Im still waiting
Y : Im busy will send it to you by 5pm
X : (For various reasons) No I cant wait till then please send it before 5pm
Y : (Loses temper ) Im not jobless here..I am doing a lot of work ..I have just 2 hands and Im not a ROBERT
X : (ROFL -rolling on the floor and laughing)... Its ROBOT my dear not ROBERT
Y : yeah whatever!!!

Update to my previous post

So I come up with an update to my previous post

My husband finally comes to pick me & Im all sheepish and embarassed wondering how am I actually going to tackle the situation..& then our conversation begins

My Cell rings

Me: Tell me Sanju..shall I come to the gate?
San : Yeah come to the gate..

I was at the door while I see the car in frount of the door & not the gate...I was all thrilled & with a big smile got into the car..

San : Come in darling (with a sweet glint in his eye)
Me : Im sorry Sanju..I have embarassed you once again...
San : Its ok...now tell me what did you give me when you met me at the airport when I returned from US.
Me:hmmmmmm you mean **ss..
San:No ..Im talking about the moment you met me..
Me:hmmm my dad gave you a bear hug
San:Noo..Im talking about you
Me:hmmmmmmmm hmmmmmm
San: Think think...
Me: Ahhh I gave you a single red rose which had a long stalk...
San : Yeahh correct...(Hands me over a similar..more beautiful ..red rose)
Me:Awww this is soooo cute of you....least expected..(It was only then I noticed that San was driving with just one hand ..holding the rose in the other)
San:Yeah...I felt bad for having scolded & grounded you....
Me:I told you Im sorry & my apology was very humble..
San:I stopped the car at this place & bought it all for you....
Me:Ohhh that soo sweet of you...
San:Yeahh you too careless & you need to work on it..
Me:Yeah..that because I depend on you for everything..
San:Noo that not good dear...
Me:WOW Im going to preserve this rose for a lifetime..........

Zoommmmmmmm off we speed off to our sweet home where the night turned out to be all the more special by Monica's (San's cousin sister) dance performance after a sumptous dinner or mutton biryani,prawns fry & fish curry......Im sure this dance performace of Moni is going to be a surprise to my dear BIL Praveen ..
@Praveen : Our next gettogether will be inaugrated with Moni's peformance followed by our usual Kuuthu hehehe :)

The day actually ended in a very memorable way.....& rose is in my cupboard where I keep my jewels...yeah its more precious than my jewels... :)

Mistakes do happen..but shouldnt I be learning from them??

Have you ever repeated a mistake ?? Especially when instructions are given to you like a parrot & you still commit the same mistake...Well Ive been a victim of this several times & trust me its the most embarassing situation..worst when it is something which involves your loved ones & emotions in it..Im into one right now ..repeating the same mistake in a timeframe of less than 48 hours & I dont know how Iam going to over come it..Well this day didnt end in a very pleasant way like it started atleast for this reason..There are a lot of uncertainities at work too & I hoping for the coming week to be more promising ..I still have a couple of more hours to call the day off..I just hope things get better once I reach home...My MIL has prepared prawns & I love sea food..so as I hope the dinner going to make me feel better my painful wisdom tooth just reminded me of the awful pain Im going through now...
Will making a note of the mistakes repeated in the past & looking at it every morning help me...OR just a profound humble apology will...I dont know Im totally confused ....WORDS just dont help when it comes to emotions...


Update : My husband just called me & told me that he forgot his lunch box at work..I need to confirm from my MIL if he has done the same in the past..so I dont have to repent for what I did today..hehehe..Atlast I see some light in this dark evening....Happy Weekend... :)

Conversations

Some unforgettable moments on my anniversary

Location : Pattaya,Royal Orchard
Scene : San being the early bird he is gets up earlier than me & is almost done with his bath.I manage to open my eyes to see the time which is around 8.00am & decide to walk out of the bed.
San comes out of the bathroom ,all fresh & with a clean shaved & happy face..Hugs me & wishes me happy anniversary while I snuggle into this broad hairy chest just hoping he would say..its ok sleep for another 1hour..

San : I washed my hair today..
Me : Ohh!! did you use the shampoo that was here
San : Yes..its smells very good & I used the moisturiser too
Me : Ohh!! Wow no wonder your skin is actually glowing...
San : (All confused)...my skin...I shaved & just used the after shave...
Me : Then where did you use the moisturiser
San : For my hair obviously..
Me: WHATTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT
San : What what
Me : Moisuturiser is for the skin ..its conditioner for the hair..
San : (With all the sheepish look in the world) Ohh yaa I got confused...(Whining)
Me : ha ha ha ha ha ( A laughther of a life time)

Location : Coral Island,Pattaya
Scene : With my heart in my mouth everytime we changed boats till we reached the shore ,we got into the water to play...After sometime I decided to walk back to the shore to sit for a while in the shade..

San : Photo time sweetie!!!..go stand in the water I'll take some pics of you
Me : (With all Grins) yeahh go ahead

After about 5min I felt something irritating in my pocket..

Me : Oops my cellphone...
San : Shucks...give to me...God...i can actually squeeze the water out of the cellphone..looks like its dead
Me : (All whining)
San : Dont worry lets dry it in the sun for a while & see if it works.

We then had to sit down in the sun with my cellphone completely dismantled & dried it on my shoes..

San : Dont worry I'll buy you a new one when we go to Singapore..its just a few more days to go (cuddles me)..
Me : No..I dont want a new one..Im very emotionally attached to this phone..my brother's gift for my birthday..& how could I be so careless...(In tears)
San : (Gives a big bear hug)...We shall take it to any of the motorola workshop & try our best to fix it..if nothing works ..you may have to use another phone...
Me : Ohhh..I just hope it works...(whining again)
San : Ok now you please dont tell this to your parents or your brother or else you brother will buy you another one by this coming birthday.
Me : hmm ok will not let anyone know..

Once we reached bangalore..I told my in laws about what had happened to my cellphone & Im now using my husband's older phone..My parents came home last night to see me & we showed them our photos once my in laws were done with showing thier Europe tour pics.
As we came to the snap which was taken at the Coral Island where the miserable thing happened to my phone..my FIL said "Ohh Subha..so this is the place where your cell phone got spoilt." San & I were like Ohhh shucks….. Immediately my parents & bro were like "U dropped ur cellphone & lost it "..I felt embarassed & managed to say…the phone has fallen sick & needs to be treated its neither dead nor lost...

Common Conversations

Also here is something which is a very common scene when San I go to any restaurant to eat..San is extremely fast in whatever he does..& when it comes to eating he is ultra-fast.Many a times it turns out to be embarassing in marriage halls because my husband wipes out the banana leaf at the same speed at which the food is being served..leaving the person serving the food in total confusion ..but when the person notices me next to my husband with the entire menu on my leaf untouched with my talks going on & he would understand….

Scene : San & I order a meal & we are served at the sametime.I start talking from the time I see him & its still going on & on .Im not even 1% done with my food & San is actually waiting for the finger bowl.

San : Eat slowly..no hurry take your time.
Me : (Grin with a spoonful of food in my mouth,chewing every atom by atom..relishing every bit & then finally a big swallow & a gulp of water).. Ok so u know today this dame XXXX is so stupid….blah blah blah..& you know what...
San : Eat Eat
Me : OK (another spoonful in mouth) & you know this lady….blah blah..blah..
San : ohhh..Eat Eat Eat (looks at the wall clock in this wrist)
Me : blah blah blah
San : Eat fast Shubu
Me :OK (2 more spoons in mouth..longer time to chew)….blah blah..blah
San:Asks the waiter for the bill
Me :blah blah blah
San : Are you going to finish it or shall I feed you…
Me : I think Im too full to eat now..
San : You talk more than what you eat…
Me:Yeah right you eat faster than I talk...


This is also one conversation in my family that I recollect quite often & have a good laugh..

Scene : My husband & I were having breakfast in the dining hall on a Sunday morning & my FIL was watching TV & MIL was in the Pooja Room or the loo not to sure where was at the time.

San : What's for lunch today Shubu?
Me : Fish
San :What fish?
Me : Pomfret
San : Which on black or white?
Me : I don’t know ask Maami..
San's Dad : Its Black
San : Why didn’t you buy the white one?
San's Dad : We have never bought the white one..we always buy the black one
San : No no I have seen Mummy prepare white pomfrets several times what are you talking Daddy..ask Mummy if you want
Me : Controlling my laughing as I was admiring the clash of their egos..
San : Maaa Maaa…Mama..Mama come Mama
San's Mom : What ??why are you screaming?
San : Maa havent we bought White pomfret in the past…Daddy is saying we always buy Black Pomfert ..
San's Mom : Yeah we have been buying only the Tender or Real Good Chicken for quite a few years now…
San & Me : (Looked at each other paused for a moment burst out laughing at like MAD)
San's Mom : Hey why are you guys laughing ..share the joke with me too…let me also have a laugh
Me : Nothing Maami….nothing….
San : Maa what are we talking & what are you replying….. ( continues laughing)