Transparency a Burden!!

A couple of weekends ago I was watching this old Tamil Movie where the story revolved around a divorced couple and their son was being raised by the mother and the ways the father took to get back to his wife.Bhagyaraj was the hero and Sarita played his wife.The movie displayed very minute details of the high expectations which any married couple will have and how deeply they loved each other .They really did not think it was an expectation or a duty but it was part of their life to be transparent to each other be it how big or small things were.As every married life will have its own ups and downs sorrow enters their life through Sarita's friend who is a young widow and Sarita pleads her husband to help the widow get her husband's insurance money.With a lot of reluctance Bhagyaraj obliges to help her to please his extremely broadminded wife..he goes to an extent to please his wife's friend in every possible way which leads Sarita and Bhayaraj to part ways while Sarita is pregnant.

The fact I did not like in this movie is when Bhagaraja tried all possible means to get back to his wife the only reason which she quotes for not going back to him is that he cheated on her but every other friend ,relative of Sarita convince her taking examples of other men who were bigger cheats and they
also request her to appreciate the fact that her husband confessed his misdeed to her which he could have hid forever.Well my question is..if Sarita had committed one such mistake and had asked for an apology would her husband accept her ?I would have appreciated a friend who guides her saying living a life as a single mother is better than to live as a cheat's wife..you never know when he will cheat on you again..

Secondly if there were worse men in the world so be it , a husband who cheats his wife is an addition to that list but no better than the whole lot.The worst scene in the movie which I hated the most is the climax where Bhagyaraj pretends to marry another woman and lets Sarita plead and cry like she had committed a crime and asking for forgiveness.To top it up she resorts to killing herself and her poor son and finally realises that her husband was playing a prank on her...The moral was yes we should learn to forgive and forget and move on in life..may be acceptable to some extent but the concept is very subjective.The above mentioned movie was extreme where the Chasity of one is questionable but what about the other incidents which people do behind each others back.

I understand that everyone needs their own space to and it should be respected.But if you think your space is doing things behind each other back and not feeling guilty about it then expect the same from the other person too.

If you expect your wife to keep you updated about her whereabouts every second you jolly well live up to it before expecting so.You cannot have her being transparent to you and you hid things from her and say well I helped people out of goodwill and be happy that Im atleast letting you know ..Above all SORRY is word we can tolerate for petty things but not for instances where you do things behind each others back..

If you are willing to do a task and if your spouse's opinion for that matter is not of great importance to you then learn not to expect the same from the other person as well.I personally feel that women do try their best to move on but if such mistakes are done repeatedly I think we just lose hope and either learn to part ways or live like a vegetable so that your decision doesnt affect your kids future and  in bargain men continue to take advantage of your emotions and get back in action...